Yep, I have to say that I am thankful for the trials that I have faced in my relatively short period of time on this rock.
You see, in raising in my boys I am seeing just how strong a teacher failure can be! And not just in relation to my boys’ learning, but in my abilities as a parent.
In my own life, it appears that I learn best when I fail and have the ability to watch others fail. I recently added a few phrases to the comments of a someone’s blog asking for the words or phrases that best describe the last ten years. The phrase I would use to best describe the last decade is ‘destructive creation.’
You see, when I fail, I have destroyed something; expectations, promises, trust, a system, deadlines, etc. But I learn from my failures. I create a different way to address or attack the source of my failure.
Trials are simply the way things in my life get destroyed. Typically, my own trials are things that challenge my underlying expectations and assumptions. These trials of life tend to take off edges of my personality that I have either grown very comfortable with, but no longer have need for or fine tune parts of me that need to somehow be made better.
God simply doesn’t give us more than we can handle, of this I am confident! It is this simple truth in my life that allows me to peresevere when I can’t see any end.
Back to being a parent… When my boys behave in a manner inconsistent with how we’ve worked to raise them, there is discipline. Not just for my boys and their errant attitudes, but there is discipline that needs to further be instilled in us as parents.
You see, discipline has two meanings, but I honestly believe they are one in the same, in practice. One definition is to reprimand, the other is to train, or be trained. So, my boys will be reprimanded for bad behavior and, as parents, we rethink how to instill, or train, the boys to behave in a better manner.
Discipline: it’s how you become better.
So often, I believe I mix up just what is discipline and what is a trial, in my daily life. Yet, at the end of the day, trials are simply a discipline that I need to learn, endure and celebrate.
Oddly enough, just as I was ready to publish this post, I ran across this post from Julien. Isn’t it interesting how closely tied together the words “challenge” and “trial” are?
Do you see life as a game to experiment with, or do you see it as a series of corridors? This will change what you’re capable of.
Timing, it appears, is everything.
[Here’s the link to all of the 31 Days of Thanksgiving posts.]